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Saturday, July 6, 2013

Releasing Anger

"You will not be punished for your anger.
You will be punished by your anger."
Guatama Buddha

Today, right now I am angry. This is not a normal state for me but it happens. I have taken a couple of personal body blows. There are a couple of people in my life experiences grief, pain, and hardship.  As an empath, it can be hard to process and separate out my own feelings. Both of my children are in....challenging stages. Long story short, I am angry. It doesn't happen often but every so often I can feel the tsunami of rage building in my belly and anger pouring through my veins. It is powerful. It is intense. It is energy. It is not helpful at all. Not one little bit. 

I am not sure there is ever a good time to embrace anger and rage. It is a fire ripping through your body and soul destroying your harmony, your peace, and your health. Rage quickens my wit and enables me to have the tongue of a viper, fast and filled with venom. I have the instinct to know what will knife someone in their gut. I hurt people in my anger. That is simply not acceptable. I cannot think of any good coming from anger.

There are times to fight for justice. There are times to be sickened by a situation and be determined to to right a wrong. But those are not really filled with anger. If they were it would end up hurting the very people you wanted to help.

But here it is, rage tapping me on the shoulder wanting to come in a play and wreak havoc.

What do you do?

Well, I am making a choice to not let it in. I am choosing a better path.

But how do you do it?

Well, I can only tell you how I do it. Starting tomorrow, I will slow everything down.  I will severely limit if not completely restrict my internet access. I will read things that uplift my soul. I will listen to music capable of making my very soul sing with joy. I will eat extremely clean. I will do yoga, lots of yoga. I will meditate. I will do this the next day and the next if it is necessary. I will do what is necessary to exorcise these feelings from within me.

You see, I believe you really can choose your thoughts and choose your emotions or at least how you will deal with them. I believe I do not have to be at their mercy. It is my choice.

And I choose love, joy, and peace.

May harmony find you my friends and may she find me as well.



  1. Love! thank you for sharing.

  2. Totally, you can. Everyone feels anger. It's a normal human emotion. But we have the choice to stay in the anger or to dwell on it and let it consume us (I'll give you a guess which one is the better choice, haha). You can totally do this. Something that has helped me when I'm in a challenging state is to visualize my positive response to an anticipated challenge (i.e. a specific behavior from a child), and instead of having a mental image of me losing my temper, I imagine a calm response.

    I'll be thinking of you and thinking thoughts of success!

    1. Thank you! Yes, you are right everyone feels anger. I find myself progressing in the right direction and usually choosing peace. Then BAM!! out of no where the rage screams out. There I sit thinking um, wow that situation was a 3 yet I responded as if it were a 10. But, I am grateful for the experience. Each time it happens I really do learn a bit more.